Best Ways To Teach Anger Management To Children


It is sometimes very tough to know how to help an angry child. Despite of their small size, some children tend to get angry and frustrated easily and might even become aggressive and blow up often even over very minor issues. If not dealt with quickly, this frustration might turn into defiance, aggression and disrespect towards everyone.

As children do not know how to deal with their emotions, it becomes the responsible of parents to help them out in dealing with their anger to avoid poor mental health in their adulthood. In addition, angry kids are not easily accepted by their peers resulting in peer rejection, social isolation and even academic problems. Here are some of the ways to teach anger management skills to children.

Teach Children To Label Their Feelings

Kids tend to become angry and lash out when they don’t understand what to do as they do not know how to cope with their feelings. A child cannot say, “I’m angry” or “I’m tired” and may instead take up to yelling. They even do this sometimes just to grab attention. Teach them some basic words to express their feelings or play a fun game with them labelling their expressions. Overtime, kids will be able to express how their feel in a better way.

Give Them Options

Often kids don’t realize that there are alternative ways to deal with their anger other than crying or throwing tantrums. Explain them that instead of hitting their siblings or friends when they are angry or frustrated, they can just simply walk away or may be talk with them. One of the best way to teach is to use a specific time out as a tool to cope up with their anger. A calm down kit which includes toys or crayons will also help in taking off their mind from the uneasy situation.

Explain Consequences

If kids get to know that they will have to face consequences for bad behaviour, they are more likely to behave well. Likewise, positive consequences like rewarding them for their good behaviour and following anger rules will motivate them to behave better. Even the use of time out can bring better results when dealing with behaviour in kids. These strategies will also help kids to calm down on their own when they are angry.

Show That Their Outbursts Aren’t Effective

If kids can’t get something they want even by displaying anger, they are likely to stay away from yelling next time. If their needs are met every time they throw tantrums, they will usually think that it is the quickest way to get what they want. So parents need to stop giving in just in order to avoid a meltdown. In fact, they might display the same behaviour out of home and may have to face negative consequences.

Teach Specific Kills for Anger Management

Though it may sound like something that cannot be achieved so soon given their tender age, teaching kids how to specifically manage their anger at a young age will have a positive effect on their behaviour. Specific anger management techniques like counting from one to ten or taking deep breathes or even going for a quick walk will be easier in the long run in developing a healthy behaviour in kids.